Most of us have grown up with the Disney-like ideal of a “happily ever after” in our romantic relationships. However, although this is what most people seem to want, the divorce rate is at all-time high and people seem discouraged by the dating culture. Though dating and relationships are hard, happy marriages aren’t just for the movies. Whether you are currently in a relationship or not, here are eight things you can do to build your own happily ever after today.
- 1. Voice Appreciation
Showing appreciation is always an important act of love in any relationship, from professional to romantic. People like to know they are appreciated, and their service or hard work is noticed. However, it seems that many relationships suffer from a lack of appreciation. The next time your significant other does something nice, tell them!
Give them affirmation of your feelings. Don’t let the ones you love to assume you care for them. Tell them directly hence there is no guessing. Everyone likes to be loved and pleasing so voice your appreciation, show your love, and shower them with words of affirmation.
- 2. Be a Friend
Relationships are not merely about romance. There must be a foundational friendship. Whether you are already in a relationship or still looking for that someone, start with friendship. Listen to them, share personal stories, do favors for them. All relationships have to start somewhere, so build yours on a solid foundation by cultivating your friendship. That way, you will not only have a lover, but a friend.
- 3. Take Care of Yourself
Yes, people should accept for who you are and how you look. However, no one appreciates the slouch. Just as you would be with a job interview, dress to impress.
This doesn’t mean you have to get dolled up in your best skirt or slap on layers of makeup; however, do make an effort to be presentable and comely. Take a few minutes to style your hair differently, add some shiny lip balm, or wear your skinny jeans. You will not only look better, but you will feel better too.
- 4. Get Creative
Anyone can do the “dinner and movie” routine. When you make plans to go out, get creative. Change things up and do something different. There are tons of things you can do on a date, from miniature golf to a picnic.
Choose an activity that you can both enjoy or do something special for your significant other. Buy Atlanta Braves tickets and catch a game, or go old school and take a walk in the park. Your dates don’t have to be flashy or expensive to be fun. Just be creative. You’ll build great memories and avoid falling into the dreaded “relationship rut.”
- 5. Do Chores Together
While chores are probably not the first on your list of romantic activities, they are a great opportunity to serve one another and get some much needed one on one time together.
For example, rather than letting your significant other clean up the table after you make a meal, clear it together. Then stand side by side and do the dishes. It may not look glamorous, but this mindless chore will give you a chance to talk without the distractions of television, computers, or work.
- 6. Be Confident
People who love themselves have an inherent light and attractiveness. Learn to cultivate that self-confidence and share your positivity.
Confidence is not the same as pride or snobbishness. It is the quiet feeling of self-assurance and positive self-image that radiates light to others. That is why confident people always seem to be well-liked and get a lot of the things they want. Positive energy attracts another positive energy.
So, if you want to remain attractive to your man or woman, maintain a healthy dose of confidence. You will not only have a better romantic relationship, but you will also form greater friendships and a happier life.
- 7. Flirt
A little flirting can go a long way in revving up your love life and ensuring your happily ever after. Whether you have been married for decades or are still looking for “the one,” be playful and get your flirt on. There is nothing like a little touch here and a coy smile there to get your heart fluttering and your face flushing. Everyone loves a little attention, so don’t forget to give it to your loved one.
- 8. Commit
Finally, above all things, “happily ever after” is about commitment. They don’t say, “And they lived happily together for a few years until they grew apart and went their separate ways.” No. If you really want your fairy tale, you will have to work at it and stay committed from now to ever after.
Whether you are in a relationship or not, take these tips to heart and apply them to your life. They will help you revive old flames or spark new ones. The key to happiness in the future is to just be happy now. Good things will come to those who appreciate what they already have. And the happier you are today, the better your relationship will be tomorrow.
Leslie Mason is a homemaker and garden expert. Leslie enjoys writing, gardening, do-it-yourself projects, and fixing up the house.