So, everything’s going great and you’ve found the woman of your dreams – congratulations! Now, seal the deal before she slips away. Once you have decided it’s time to ask her to marry you, you’ll need to hatch a plan – after all, you want her to be impressed, or it might be a ‘no’! Asking your lady to marry you is something that shouldn’t be taken lightly; it needs to be thought and planning to make it memorable and special. Everybody will want to know when, where and how you proposed, so make sure it’s a good story!
Here are some tips:
Before you say anything, you’ll need to prepare. If your girlfriend is the old-fashioned type, you may feel it is right to ask her father for his blessing first. Some people skip this stage – it depends on your circumstances. Next, you need to find the ring. Men often feel nervous about choosing a ring for their other half – and we’re not surprised! Jewelry is a very personal choice, so whatever you choose; make sure you keep the receipt, in case she wants to change it. If she likes the stone but not the setting, it is possible to get the stone reset in the setting of her choice – this is a great compromise. Anyway, assuming you have found a ring that you think (hope!) she’ll like; it’s time to get going with the next stage of the plan!
Choose Your Moment
Picking the right moment is essential! If you have a holiday coming up, perhaps you could wait for a suitable time. Holidays are great for romantic settings, and you will both be in a very relaxed frame of mind. Some people wait for their other half’s birthday, or Christmas, or another special occasion. It’s important to be prepared and to always be carrying the ring with you in case the right moment presents itself.
How Do You Do It?!
Some people go for the traditional ‘down on one knee’ approach, but others don’t – it’s completely up to you. You should have a few lines rehearsed so you don’t turn into a muttering idiot with all the nerves! Tell her how much she means to you, how beautiful you think she is, and how honored you would be if she agreed to be your wife.
Bear in mind it’s not in the bag! If she says yes, then that’s great – you’ll both start getting excited about planning the impending nuptials, and afterward, there is the considerable job of spreading the news. However, you should be prepared for her to say ‘no’ too – this can be a bitter pill to swallow, but if she does, hopefully, she can be gentle and explain why. Perhaps the time isn’t just right, or maybe she’s not totally sure yet. Either way, as difficult as it might be, you need to listen to her reasons. It will help you accept the rejection. This doesn’t mean the end of your relationship; it just might mean that a few things need addressing first.
Go all out with your proposal – we wish you luck!
This post was written by Keith Walsh; he’s a receptionist at Shadwick’s Fine Jewellery, a jewelry manufacturing company in Perth, Australia. He likes reading and cycling in his spare time.